@chasinbrains Yes, jokes, banter, normal conversation & a decent amount of flirting lol.
And potentially unpopular opinion: unless something egregious has happened you don’t need lots of “talks”- things can be communicated in normal conversation.
If you can’t extend such basic courtesy to other people, don’t be surprised when you don’t get it back. https://twitter.com/seerutkchawla/status/1501580143093063681/photo/1
@tuttleryandavid @zach_brownies I think it’s a reference to the Einstein quote, “if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”
@seerutkchawla I never used to give a flying fuck either. Then my government lost its mind and claimed to not know what a woman is, and that a man who says "I am a woman" is a woman. Now, I feel having a women's day for actual women is very important.
JK Rowling is literally giving millions to help children & orphanages in Ukraine.
And people blinded by hatred have managed to make it an opportunity to dunk on her. It’s pathetic.
There's an opposite version of virtue signaling, where people brag about their ability to not feel any emotional response to current events and even mock those who do have an emotional response. You sound like jerks. Numb, cruel jerks.
There's an opposite version of virtue signaling, where people brag about their ability to not feel any emotional response to current events and even mock those who do have an emotional response. You sound like jerks. Numb, cruel jerks.
: And if you always find yourself waiting, really think about *why*- not to beat yourself up- to understand.
And once you understand you can strategise.
@SarahSueButler I don’t think that’s not a factor, plenty of other countries have been through similar air strikes and haven’t gotten the same coverage. But it’s hardly the only factor like they make out.
Politicians play power games. The media pushes agendas & manipulates emotions.
And the people losing their homes & lives are normal people like you & me.
@JoshSlocum Yes, there’s something quite craven about arguing over who’s fault it is, and in that argument what seems to be lost is the ordinary people whose lives have been decimated.
Not asking anyone to do anything. Just expressing a thought.
I understand why people are asking questions- and it also seems lost on many that as we sit in safety pontificating people are being displaced from their homes and cities bombed.
Imagine if it were your country.
Some days your heart is going to hurt. It’s an unavoidable part of being a person.
•So, give yourself grace.
•Carry on as best you can.
•And don’t take it out on other people.
@AdmiralQuality There’s a difference between coddling & basic empathy. She’s being dog piled on- and has been for days- and having a bipolar 1 & PTSD diagnosis is a vulnerable person. If you look at her recent videos, she’s been pushed to the edge.
This is despicable.
Mocking & harassing a low income disabled woman with PTSD. A new low. Please support her. https://twitter.com/couragebipolar/status/1439157790245859330
@CourageBipolar I completely understand. I’m so sorry this is happening. I’m going to delete this & repost because of a typo- and ask people to support.
@brazofuerte12 I can’t imagine the amount of pain he must have been in. Suicide can’t be understood by people who haven’t felt that that level of darkness, despair & desolation.
Very saddening to hear this.
If you have ambitions to change the world, first conquer yourself:
•your cruelty
•indiscipline
•emotional dysregulation
•comfort zone
•mindset
•actions
Status symbol: having brown eggs in your house.
I personally have never seen brown eggs at someone’s house due to my association with mostly working / low middle class people.
Confession is predicated on sin- which just like validation is a bias. Introspection is about inquiry, truth & meaning.
Not confessions of sin to an external authority. https://twitter.com/M_Phatical/status/1439040927943651328
@M_Phatical Confession is predicated on sin- which just like validation is a bias. Introspection is about inquiry, truth & meaning.
Not confessions of sin to an external authority. The only commonality is talking.
Started talking to the guy next to me on a plane. Real talk about the state of the world started up, obviously. Whole cabin around us was soon chiming in, "thank God for you guys; I thought I was the only one."
Start speaking up, honestly and everywhere, without fear.
: And ‘feelings hurt’ has been collapsed into:
•feeling offended
•disagreement
•different views & opinions
•intolerance
And then further collapsed into ‘feeling unsafe’.
What are we even doing?
Perhaps a desire to censor the free speech of others is a sign of weak convictions. If your convictions can’t stand the challenge of dissent, then maybe they warrant reflection.
I STAND WITH NICKI is trending because sometime in 2015 the Large Hadron Collider smashed a bunch of particles together that threw us into an alternate parallel reality and we've been stuck here ever since.
I get the impression western ‘communists’ think communism equals utopia.
They don’t seem to have grasped it still means work. A lot of it. With far less rights.
Someone told me yesterday, ‘actually I prefer to be coddled’.
That’s the crux of the issue.
Swathes of adults who want an extended childhood with all rights & 0 responsibility.
: It’s not enough to be kind anymore, you have to publicly perform it.
And the performance looks like having a grin plastered to your face, speaking in platitudes & soft but gushing tones.
Perhaps if ‘be kind’ wasn’t forced down people’s throats, they’d feel comfortable enough to be truthful.
And stop enacting what they repress by forcing ‘kindness’.
Imagine what could be accomplished with all the time and energy the Very Smart People waste trying to figure out stuff James was saying like two years ago when they could have just used Jimmy's concepts from the start!
Everyone subjected to cancel culture goes through The Great Unfriending.
People who you thought were friends, knew you well, would support you- turn on you, join the mob, or quietly turn their back on you.
Everyone subjected to cancel culture goes through The Great Unfriending.
People who you thought were friends, knew you well, would support you- turn on you, join the mob, or quietly turn their back on you.
Right. I can’t speak to, agree with, even look at someone from a particular political party. Ppl aren’t human any more. If you’re black & a Democrat tells u to shove marbles up ur ass, you simply have to. If another party tells u to look out for that bus, stand there & get hit https://t.co/OhjQZCbmBa
@ElliotIkilei He was a terror & made a lot of mistakes when he was younger- but he then became really cool & like! And honestly the mistakes part is human & relatable.
: Better alternatives than Meghan power posing & Harry cowering behind her blending into the background. https://twitter.com/seerutkchawla/status/1438291769117093899/photo/1
US Socialist Convention- they’re so busy scolding each other they can’t even start the bloody meeting 🤯 https://twitter.com/seerutkchawla/status/1438143470380756996/video/1
You are a human being:
•Evolved to be the most adaptable animal on the planet
•Your brain is plastic
•Evolutionary advantage of growing under stress
•Anti-fragile: gain from disorder
You are SO much stronger than you think.
Some people want the truth, and some people want to feel to feel comfortable.
The former will always offend the latter- often simply by existing with that preference.
It’s interesting how people who don’t want to build resilience or fortitude manage their insecurities around this by shaming people who are resilient & have fortitude.
It’s interesting how people who don’t want to build resilience or fortitude manage their insecurities around this by shaming people who are resilient & have fortitude.
@somenuancepls I think it would most definitely do that, because the wider society doesn’t understand the detrans experience at all. If I can assist in any way, please let me know.
@SaffronKim @Jebadoo2 The woke behave like this everywhere, most notably when terrorising people on the internet. It originated in America & those not in America use this verbiage- whether it fits or not.
@somenuancepls You’re right it isn’t fair. I’m sorry it happened. I understand not wanting to ask for help, but if you do I think a lot of people would want to help. ❤️
Woke left or ‘alt-right’ is another Kafka trap just like ‘you’re either anti-racist or you’re racist’.
It’s designed to force your hand in their desired direction.
Painful & awful things happen to us through no choice of our own- that doesn’t mean have no choices.
•Our response is our choice.
•How we meet challenges is our choice.
•The way we tend to pain is our choice.
: That doesn’t mean it’s not hard or unfair. It is. But what’s the alternative?
Look for the choices. Then act on them.
That’s how you connect to your agency & take personal responsibility.
Painful & awful things happen to us through no choice of our own- that doesn’t mean have no choices.
•Our response is our choice.
•How we meet challenges is our choice.
•The way we tend to pain is our choice.
The architects of delusion will coax, coerce & gaslight you into cutting your tether to reality.
Plant your feet firmly to the ground & get grounded if you want to survive.
@seerutkchawla I call this the “Overton peephole.” It allows a small percentage of the US to “win” arguments through taboo, moral pollution theory, & dismissal that they wouldn’t be able to win on the merits.
My kiddo will be spending the night at grandma’s with his cousins tomorrow. First time spending the night anywhere. I know it’s not rational and he’ll have fun but nevertheless I’m, I don’t know, apprehensive. :( I hope he doesn’t get scared in the middle of the night.
“Parents are an oppressive class” is exactly the kind of brain worm thinking you get from people who haven’t learned the basics of logic or critical thinking but have been taught postmodernism.
“Parents are an oppressive class” is exactly the kind of brain worm thinking you get from people who haven’t learned the basics of logic or critical thinking but have been taught postmodernism.
It’s not coincidental that the people who get completely enraged at you for talking about victim mentality (not people who’ve been victimised), have victim mentality.
Or they enable those that do.
There’s a difference between normative empathy: “I’m so sorry you’re going through this.”
And undeserved praise or ‘ego candy’: “you are incredible & magical.”
The two have been conflated. https://t.co/gjJp40cXI9
: As a result, when copious amounts of unearned praise or ‘ego candy’ aren’t offered it’s read as a lack of empathy.
Sugary crap with 0 substance didn’t help anyone.
There’s a difference between normative empathy: “I’m so sorry you’re going through this.”
And undeserved praise or ‘ego candy’: “you are incredible & magical.”
The two have been conflated.
A ‘social contagion’ is “the spread of ideas, attitudes, or behaviour patterns in a group through imitation and conformity.”
And social media is like putting the social contagion on steroids.
Identity politics cleverly purports to ‘increase understanding of different groups’- while using identity as a basis to divide people even into even more tribes.
In a way your haters are your biggest fans.
Only someone who is utterly convinced of your power & effectiveness would dedicate themselves to attacking you.
In a way your haters are your biggest fans.
Only someone who is utterly convinced of your power & effectiveness would dedicate themselves to attacking you.
@seerutkchawla Oh I totally agree. All those tweets where I said cats were psychopaths, that they would eat their owners, that they are like woke people, that wasn’t really me. My account got hacked.
https://t.co/LUwLkQuAIF
Liberalism believes in pluralism- different people & beliefs can coexist together.
Wokeness believes it is the one true morality. Like every other fundamentalist religion.
Whether it’s about race, vaccinations, gender ideology, or the bloody moon- people should be allowed to ask questions.
It’s only through discussion that we progress ideas.
From a psychotherapeutic perspective, ‘valid’ is an interesting choice of word to attach to feelings.
It seems to inhibit exploration of feelings with an absolute declaration of “validity”.
There’s a streak of narcissism in taking it upon yourself to speak for an entire ‘community’.
If the community didn’t vote & elect you speak for them, you’re speaking for yourself.
Wokeness fights for the rights of black, brown, disabled, gay, lesbian, women & trans people.
Unless they’re the wrong kind of black, brown, disabled, gay, lesbian or trans person- then they try to destroy your life.
Almost as if it’s not about their rights at all…
In Britain ‘curtain twitchers’ are nosey people who spy on their neighbours, unobserved, behind the safety of their curtains.
Social media has made curtain twitchers of us all.
@jim_lingk Awww no that’s horribly sad, they’ve put something corrosive or irritating on the poor little guy that’s why he’s rubbing himself like that :(
Humans suck :(
@mrsmabel46 @wil_da_beast630 Yes, we already have evidence that psilocybin can treat PTSD & treatment resistant depression. There’s also evidence that mdma assisted therapy is more efficacious.
@seerutkchawla If I'm honest, I don't think a "victimhood mindset" is the problem.
The problem is "victimhood hierarchies", which, in practice, means "inactive and weak people must rule".
Victimhood hierarchies aren't just philosophically deficient, they're fundamentally unnatural.
Woke discussions of victimhood assume (wrongly) that everyone who claims victimhood has actually been victimised.
And non-woke discussions of victimhood sometimes ignore that not everyone who has been victimised chose to be.
Safety in yourself looks like:
•The ability to rely on yourself
•Trust in your competence
•Faith in your ability to learn
•Faith in your ability to adapt
•Learning from experience
And because of these, knowing that no matter what happens you will ultimately be okay.
Safety in yourself looks like:
•The ability to rely on yourself
•Trust in your competence
•Faith in your ability to learn
•Faith in your ability to adapt
•Learning from experience
And because of these, knowing that no matter what happens you will ultimately be okay.
@Ka_tastrophy I see what you’re saying, I disagree because I think woke white people use id pol in a way that is extremely racist & reeks of hypocrisy.
I think it’s an aspect of it that should be pointed out. I’ve personally been on the receiving of so much abuse from them.
@Jebadoo2 Yes, if you saw the news from india today (tweet before this one), it’s hard to even read. In comparison to that all of this seems laughable.
A nine-year-old Dalit girl was gang-raped, murdered and then cremated by a priest and three associates. All that was left of her for the forensic team were her legs.
An average of nearly 90 rapes of girls and women were reported every day in 2019.
https://t.co/sswPz4r046
Everyone needs at least one person in their life who thinks they’re magical, wonderful, makes them feel safe and unconditionally loved.
Everyone also needs at least one person who calls you out on your bullshit, excuses & tells you the unvarnished truth.
Everyone needs at least one person in their life who thinks they’re magical, wonderful, makes them feel safe and unconditionally loved.
Everyone also needs at least one person who calls you out on your bullshit, excuses & tells you the unvarnished truth.
No, I’m not editing my language because some people lack very basic reading comprehension.
I lost my mother to covid, I’m well aware of the virus, thanks. https://twitter.com/mollistan/status/1422744912651505673
@DisaffectedPod I try to meet people where they are and there are some who want to stop the latter, and the former might be helpful?
Though I see what you are saying.
It’s salacious, voyeuristic, and quite sadistic because it uses real human beings lives/pain/mistakes as entertainment for increasing bored & online people.
The same reason people love tabloids.
@JailerToFall @zach_brownies What’s rare & cool about what you’ve said is self-awareness. It doesn’t sound like you’re beating yourself up, but you’re holding yourself responsible. That’s cool :)
Cancel culture is when the woke mob goes after someone & it becomes a public spectacle.
The real housewives is a (v popular) reality show where rich high society women over share their lives & have messy fights.
I’m drawing a correlation between the popularity of both.
: It’s salacious, voyeuristic, and quite sadistic because it uses real human beings lives/pain/mistakes as entertainment for increasing bored & online people.
The same reason people love tabloids.
: Cancel culture is when the woke mob goes after someone & it becomes a public spectacle.
The real housewives is a (v popular) reality show where rich high society women over share their lives & have messy fights.
I’m drawing a correlation between the popularity of both.
@SaffronKim Cancel culture is when the woke mob goes after someone & it becomes a public spectacle.
The real housewives is a (v popular) reality show where wealthy high society women essentially cat fight & over share their lives.
I’m drawing a correlation between the popularity of both.
@SaffronKim Cancel culture is when the woke mob goes after someone & it becomes a public spectacle.
The real housewives is a (v popular) reality show where wealthy high society women essentially cat fight & over share their lives.
I’m drawing a correlation between the popularity of both.
It’s possible to:
•Believe in liberal values
-And not want to tear down civilisation
•Be a tough boundaried no BS person
-And have empathy
•Vehemently oppose an ideology
-And see the humanity in it's followers
Think beyond binaries.
@DisaffectedPod It’s actually horrifying. This is how they treat addiction when it’s someone they don’t like? 0 principles.
What happened to him could have happened to anyone.
When ‘dismantling’ society, be careful not to pull down a structural wall.
Gravity is not a social construct, and the roof will collapse on your head too.
I have a lot of respect for people with courage & grit.
Whether that’s intellectual pursuits, physical feats, or turning inwards and conquering your own demons.
GK Chesterton said, “Do not remove a fence until you know why it was put up in the first place.”
You never know what horrors that fence was keeping out.
: Edit: improves serotonin & dopamine* over time.
There’s lot of silly fear mongering around dopamine- by people who don’t really understand what it does.
A heretic in 2021:
•Accurately perceives & describes reality
•Speaks the truth
•Tribeless
•Believes in common humanity
•Will not be bullied
•Rejects cancel culture
•Would rather pay the cost for telling the truth than live a lie
Does. Not. Bend. The. Knee
On some issues it’s of less importance where we stand on the issue.
And of more significance that we have stumbled idiotically into such a dystopian place we are having the conversation at all.
The ideologues can have Hollywood & their *own* depts in universities. Idc.
But some things require cold, hard, emotionless, fact & ruthless precision- medicine is on the top of that list.
And, engineering, STEM, public records, aviation.
These must not be touched.
@plants62: @greg99108129 This is a recommendation by the American *medical* association, it shouldn’t take much thought to extrapolate the potential consequences.
@seerutkchawla In fairness to the trans rights advocates, there is little risk of cervical cancer once you perform hysterectomies on all the 12 year old girls.
This makes about as much sense as “AMA says doctors must draw on patients faces with colourful sharpies.” https://twitter.com/WebMD/status/1421312166108581888
@CritFacts Objective reality: Gravity, biology, nature, thermodynamics, astronomy- truth for that matter.
Your argument seems to be that because building codes inform how buildings are built, that ‘shapes reality’.
@CritFacts Buildings codes don’t ‘shape reality’, it’s a safety standard.
There is an objective reality regardless of how language describes it.
If you call a building a lemon, it doesn’t shapeshift into one.
Look up the strawman logical fallacy.
What we’re living through feels incredibly surreal, dystopian, because what we know to be objective reality is contradicted by the dominant culture.
The Great Gaslightenment.
@mmcdonaldlewis @HPluckrose @peterboghossian @JohnHMcWhorter @LeonydusJohnson @FreeBlckThought @triggerpod @ItsGoneAwry @ConceptualJames @Montewashere @cliftonaduncan @jmasseypoet @CaitlinPacific @NewtownCulture @antihero_kate What a lovely picture 😊 We are with you. You aren’t distracting, this exactly is what we are all (vehemently) against.
Don’t forget everything else you’ve already survived. You’ll survive this too ❤️⚔️
It’s interesting that same people who reject personal responsibility as ‘harmful’, want to police everyone else’s language & behaviour.
They want 0 responsibility, but also want to have power over others.
@mmcdonaldlewis @HPluckrose @peterboghossian @JohnHMcWhorter @LeonydusJohnson @FreeBlckThought @triggerpod @ItsGoneAwry @ConceptualJames @Montewashere @cliftonaduncan @jmasseypoet @CaitlinPacific @NewtownCulture @antihero_kate It’s scary to be alone when you feel like this. Really really important that you tell someone in physical proximity that you feel this way. Good idea to let your GP know, and have the relevant numbers programmed in your phone. Please? ❤️ It’s important.
@mmcdonaldlewis @HPluckrose @peterboghossian @JohnHMcWhorter @LeonydusJohnson @FreeBlckThought @triggerpod @ItsGoneAwry @ConceptualJames @Montewashere @cliftonaduncan @jmasseypoet @CaitlinPacific @NewtownCulture @antihero_kate I’m really glad. This is a horrific & cruel thing to be put through.
@mmcdonaldlewis @HPluckrose @peterboghossian @JohnHMcWhorter @LeonydusJohnson @FreeBlckThought @triggerpod @ItsGoneAwry @ConceptualJames @Montewashere @cliftonaduncan @jmasseypoet @CaitlinPacific @NewtownCulture @antihero_kate How’re you feeling now Mary? Been thinking of you all evening. I hope the movie helped ❤️
@mmcdonaldlewis @HPluckrose @peterboghossian @JohnHMcWhorter @LeonydusJohnson @FreeBlckThought @triggerpod @ItsGoneAwry @ConceptualJames @Montewashere @cliftonaduncan @jmasseypoet @CaitlinPacific @NewtownCulture @antihero_kate It does because it’s violating & it’s abuse. You’re in survival mode so it feels like your number one priority is defence- you’re number one priority is actually fiercely guarding your mental health right now.
@mmcdonaldlewis @HPluckrose @peterboghossian @JohnHMcWhorter @LeonydusJohnson @FreeBlckThought @triggerpod @ItsGoneAwry @ConceptualJames @Montewashere @cliftonaduncan @jmasseypoet @CaitlinPacific @NewtownCulture @antihero_kate Remember these things:
1. Their words do not change the nature of reality.
2. You must not allow their narrative about you to overwrite what you think about yourself.
3. In whatever way you can limit looking at what they’re saying about you, it’s like consuming a neurotoxin.
: @mmcdonaldlewis @HPluckrose @peterboghossian @JohnHMcWhorter @LeonydusJohnson @FreeBlckThought @triggerpod @ItsGoneAwry @ConceptualJames @Montewashere @cliftonaduncan @jmasseypoet @CaitlinPacific @NewtownCulture @antihero_kate You are in your home. You are safe. This will pass.
We are with you ❤️⚔️
@mmcdonaldlewis @HPluckrose @peterboghossian @JohnHMcWhorter @LeonydusJohnson @FreeBlckThought @triggerpod @ItsGoneAwry @ConceptualJames @Montewashere @cliftonaduncan @jmasseypoet @CaitlinPacific @NewtownCulture @antihero_kate Remember these things:
1. Their words do not change the nature of reality.
2. You must not allow their narrative about you to overwrite what you think about yourself.
3. In whatever way you can limit looking at what they’re saying about you, it’s like consuming a neurotoxin.
@mmcdonaldlewis @HPluckrose @peterboghossian @JohnHMcWhorter @LeonydusJohnson @FreeBlckThought @triggerpod @ItsGoneAwry @ConceptualJames @Montewashere @cliftonaduncan @jmasseypoet @CaitlinPacific @NewtownCulture @antihero_kate Fuck. I’m so sorry. I’ve been there and its awful.
What can we do to support you?
Unsolicited advice: You cannot consume a pure diet of the culture war. It will make you nihilistic and/or sick.
It has to be broken up with other stuff: productivity, time offline, connection, exercise, play.
Just watched Fantastic Fungi on Netflix.
•Mushrooms are the most marvellous, magical organisms. •In the cycle of nature they are somehow both death & rebirth. •The mycelium may as well be magic.
•They have the power to alter consciousness & also to end life.
Recommended. https://twitter.com/seerutkchawla/status/1421206080504410118/photo/1
You can have opinions, like or dislike things without it being ‘internalised misogyny/white supremacy/etc’.
People are allowed their preferences. This is a small, limited way of viewing human beings.
A serious social issue of this age is that people say what they imagine will make them sound like a nice person- instead of saying what they actually think.
@radfaery I’m sorry you had to go through that. This absolutely does not apply to situations like yours.
It applies to the cultural conditioning of these traits.
@KierninRhys @femmehonnete1 I’m sorry, that’s so shit. And indicative of what I’ve seen too. People who are actually different/ill are treated like shit.
@HabituallyFemme Because for you it’s not a trendy identity label for your bio, it’s something serious you have to live with- and have to actively manage. I completely understand why you call it appropriation. It’s really sucks.
@dajmacd They aren’t technically a mental illness. They’re also very misunderstood & stigmatised. Though of course there are people with PD’s who do very serious damage, and plenty without PD’s who do too.
Actual mental illness is still very much stigmatised.
Instead, what had been de-stigmatised is self-indulgence, self-absorption, fragility, entitlement & learned helplessness.
@tuttleryandavid @OneGirlMelissa I think it’s representative of how binary & reactionary we are. We respond to things by choosing the opposite extreme, then counter-respond by doing the same. Ad infinitum. That, and the dearth of reason we’re currently experiencing.
@tuttleryandavid Oh it’s so far from easy. It’s a moral & ethical quagmire. And then you have to delegate how it’s enforced- I don’t envy anyone in this position.
If you were in charge of a social media platform how would you: 1. Define terms of service?
2. What wouldn’t you allow?
3. What’s your line on free speech, if any?
@kahntra The ‘chemical imbalance’ thing has been disproved. And largely the second group is culturally conditioned. It has to meet certain criteria to be mental illness.
@ange_eme @Sasha_CA I answered your question, you’ve moved the goalposts & framed your question to force the answer you want.
Whether you like it or not, the answer I gave you stands.
@ange_eme @Sasha_CA No you have a trait without it being pathological. And re cluster b disorders, yes there are people who do cause harm but there are many who don’t.
@RukhsanaSukhan Agree that the DSM is flawed, and the mind & body are not divorced. Do not believe all mental health issues are the result of ‘trauma’. Im thinking of mental illnesses like schizophrenia or bipolar disorder which have strong genetic predisposition. People who live with these 1/
: @RukhsanaSukhan really suffer. Also thinking of PTSD (injury not illness).
Re genesis of mental illness/legitimacy of psychiatry I won’t answer because it’s outside my scope of practice.
@RukhsanaSukhan Agree that the DSM is flawed, and the mind & body are not divorced. Do not believe all mental health issues are the result of ‘trauma’. Im thinking of mental illnesses like schizophrenia or bipolar disorder which have strong genetic predisposition. People who live with these 1/
@sloppyjoehotdog It’s dystopian. And people who have to live with mental illness have even more stigma & keep even more quiet because they don’t want to associated with that second group.
Actual mental illness is still very much stigmatised.
Instead, what had been de-stigmatised is self-indulgence, self-absorption, fragility, entitlement & learned helplessness.
Actual mental illness is still very much stigmatised.
Instead, what had been de-stigmatised is self-indulgence, self-absorption, fragility, entitlement & learned helplessness.
“BUt thE PErsONal iS POliTIc-“
No it’s not, and never has been.
You only think that because instead the education you should have received, you were taught how not to think.
5/ The pendulum has swung too far- and yet stigma around mental illness hasn’t gone away, it just has new fluffy packaging.
Exchanging one poison for another is not ‘progress’.
4/ If you’ve been starved, it makes perfect sense that a response to that be to gorge yourself silly.
But if your lifestyle is gorging yourself silly it will ruin you.
: 5/ The pendulum has swung too far- and yet stigma around mental illness hasn’t gone away, it just has new fluffy packaging.
Exchanging one poison for another is not ‘progress’.
: 4/ If you’ve been starved, it makes perfect sense that a response to that be to gorge yourself silly.
But if your lifestyle is gorging yourself silly it will ruin you.
Literally everything has become a ‘culture war issue’.
As a result public discussion on everything is polarised in the most unreasonable, illogical, extremist way.
It’s ghoulish, facile, and I hate it.
I don’t think people understand that the response to this:
“Stiff upper lip, boys don’t cry, feelings/mental illness are weakness”
Which is “you are perfect exactly as you are, take no responsibility, sit in your feelings all day”
Is just as, if not more, toxic.
Am I prude because I dislike a kind of gonzo-journalistic writing style that personalizes everything and attempts to string together as many clever, earthy insults as possible about its targets?
Police called to noise complaint find cat home alone blasting music https://trib.al/3WN9ypq https://twitter.com/nypost/status/1420506170100494343/photo/1
@JonathanShedler @theresistantth1 @PsychRabble @TheNolanMcKenna @sbkaufman @DrBretAlderman @DisaffectedPod @jordanbpeterson @GadSaad Agreed, you put it so well I have nothing to add.
@PsychRabble @TheNolanMcKenna @sbkaufman @DrBretAlderman @JonathanShedler @theresistantth1 @DisaffectedPod @jordanbpeterson @GadSaad I feel similarly, and said essentially that (in the second tweet):
It’s not the responsibility of strangers on the internet to:
•Make you feel safe
•Cater to your individual experience
•Alter themselves to make you feel more comfortable
•Validate you
•Anything else you demand of them.
They are strangers. On the internet.
It’s not the responsibility of strangers on the internet to:
•Make you feel safe
•Cater to your individual experience
•Alter themselves to make you feel more comfortable
•Validate you
•Anything else you demand of them.
They are strangers. On the internet.
You don’t become ‘the most decorated American gymnast’ without being seriously fucking tough & resilient.
One of the most physically brutal & dangerous sports. https://twitter.com/seerutkchawla/status/1420425721281929216/photo/1
Every *single* thing down to an athletes mental health is politicised.
And then the cultural engineers construct a narrative which they force feed, people swallow whole, and then regurgitate.
@seerutkchawla @mmeJen I don't know. When you accept the position to represent your nation at an extremely high level, with that comes a big responsibility. People see that being set aside for reasons that may not be good enough. Calling it heroic or courageous is a farce.
As @mmeJen put it, neither condemnable nor heroic. It is what it is.
Though, I am observing with interest the social pressure to conform with the heroism take.
@littleapostate Maybe hypoglycaemia? It can feel very frightening if you’ve never had it before & don’t know what’s happening to you. Hope you’re okay ❤️
Idk what happened in that class, I wasn’t there- but in terms of child safeguarding, telling a child they ‘can’t tell their parents’ something is a big red flag 🚩 not to ignore. https://twitter.com/TheFirstonTV/status/1418624464338800640
How incredibly disappointing to read how little @DHSCgovuk & @G4S care about the way women are being sexually harassed in *mandatory* quarantine. Disgraceful.
@mcdermottsarah @SueM1tchell
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/stories-57901154
This, increasingly, troubles me. Detransitioners currently exist in a kind of human rights shadow: to support detransitioners is seen as, somehow, a betrayal of trans people. But to support someone while they're trans, then abruptly stop if they detransition, is morally bizarre. https://t.co/lJuRhpTKPV
I speak up about wokeism because racism, dehumanisation, identity politics, authoritarianism should be anathema to us all.
And I’m not available for it from the other side either.
@marcosdramasg The rules have changed, if you’ve had both vaccines apparently you don’t have to quarantine now.
Keep an eye on this page which is continually updated:
https://www.gov.uk/guidance/red-amber-and-green-list-rules-for-entering-england
How to be a rebel in 2021:
•Be rational.
•Be courteous to people you disagree with.
•Work hard.
•Take responsibility for yourself.
•Develop resilience.
•Value evidence over opinion.
•Think.
Identities rooted in a grounded sense of reality don’t require endless validation.
Only superficial identity labels cease to exist without an inexhaustible supply of external validation.
@seerutkchawla Self-righteousness is the most concentrated form of dark magic narcotic there is. Operating throughout human history almost exactly like Tolkien’s ring. Just like the temptation in the desert, Lady Galadriel’s test of choosing grace & duty vs. power over masses is our test also.
There are many brutal things that make sense from an evolutionary perspective.
Tribalism, authoritarianism, violence, rage- we’re meant to keep them in check not let them run society.
@SaffronKim Sarah Miller does really nice boxes & large tins, in case that’s of any help x https://twitter.com/seerutkchawla/status/1419349729482313732/photo/1
Sad news from from home. Our lovely Miley died last night. Her heart gave out. Probably from all the loving she did. She was such a Good Girl. https://t.co/cf3bEcj0Iq
Assuming everyone on the left is a ‘libtard’ & all conservatives are ‘alt-right Q-anon’…
instead of seeing that there’s a small minority of extremists on each side & most people are not that different to us is a giant fucking problem.
You can control your attitude.
You can control your mindset.
You can control your choices.
You can control your behaviour.
You can’t always control what happens to you- but you can damn well control if you’re going to make things better or make things worse.
I posted this to Instagram, about 300 people unfollowed me & my comments are full woke white people saying “it’s because you’re so privileged”. The irony 😂 https://twitter.com/seerutkchawla/status/1418580901110460416/photo/1
Not just a quote about fighting.
There’s almost no situation a cool head will make worse. https://twitter.com/seerutkchawla/status/1418411109212725248/photo/1
@Wurble1 Yes, the first day doesn’t count, the clock starts at midnight on day 1 (technically day 0), so you can leave 10 days later after midnight.
Could’ve left tomorrow morning, but I was so ready to get the f out.
@ColleenEren Sometimes it is- and some compartmentalisation is normal & necessary. We couldn’t function if we were feelings all our feelings all the time :)
But nope, wasn’t referring to compartmentalisation.
The older I get the better I understand aphorisms like ‘happiness is a choice’.
It’s not about insulation from tragedy- it’s about being intelligent with where you put your attention.
: In a nutshell: No, of course we can’t control things like mental illness, loss, tragedy- and I’m not suggesting this applies to that.
In a broad sense: how you feel on a day to day basis & even in tough times has a great deal to do with us & our attitude.
does anyone else eat the same thing every single day for a week or two and then all of a sudden can’t even stand to look at it, at which point you get obsessed with something else and eat that every single day and the cycle repeats
The older I get the better I understand aphorisms like ‘happiness is a choice’.
It’s not about insulation from tragedy- it’s about being intelligent with where you put your attention.
I have little patience for arguments about the horrors of the west and its social ills—not because things are so great, but because things can always be so, so much worse.
@mmeJen Yes he challenges the socially conditioned narrative, people feel cognitive dissonance & discomfort & it’s easier to smear him that examine that discomfort.
Jordan Peterson didn’t ‘radicalise’ anyone- he just interrupted indoctrination with actual facts & data.
That’s extremely inconvenient for the ones indoctrinating you.
There is nothing that can insulate you from the mob.
Not the words you use, not your identity, your morality or character- absolutely nothing.
Just tell the truth & let the chips fall where they may.
@lacroicsz I’m sorry- I imagine it takes some really profound work for a detransitioner to get to a place where you can appreciate femininity, but also to voice that appreciation. Here to hear what you have to say ❤️
Aside from the obvious- what this speaks to is the need to create conflict based on in-group & out-group opinions.
Why would you want to start a fight? https://twitter.com/Ordinary1World/status/1417698622527967239
The woke have declared that the acronym they reduced all black & brown people to ‘BIPOC’, so they could speak over us, is now problematic.
The solution? A new acronym: ‘BBIMP’, ‘black brown indigenous melanated people’.
Nothing says ‘social justice’ like white middle class college kids attempting to destroy the reputations of black & brown people who don’t believe in the bullshit you ‘learned’ in college.
@AmandaLeftCoast @xavierbonilla87 @IonaItalia @mattjlavender @FondOfBeetles @nicholaraihani Oooh nice! Nothing like a good cup of tea or afternoon tea in a tea room ☺️
Shaming people based on identity, privilege, what their ancestors allegedly did.
Makes you wonder whether the woke actually care about the groups they’re purportedly fighting for, or they just hate the ones they’re fighting against.
Some people want division. They don’t want to recognise our common humanity.
They use what divides us as cudgels- angrily whacking away at our common ground.
@OneGirlMelissa @antihero_kate Well, one can battle the woke, see the collateral damage of everything listed and still believe in the individual dignity of each human being. At least that’s my stance.
@OneGirlMelissa @antihero_kate Yes, that’s my feeling too- people shouldn’t be demeaned.
I haven’t looked too much at her response, shame to hear that’s the case.
@antihero_kate It’s a shame there’s name calling & i’m definitely not making a comment on pornography itself- just on her being ejected from the event.
Also, totally respect your view & think you’re an awesome human whether or not we agree ❤️
If you want to find out who the authoritarians, tribalists & conformists are, just say one thing that goes against the group narrative.
They’re the ones who’ll behave you’re on the run from Azkaban & they’re the ministry of magic.
*Knock on my door*
G4S guard wielding an Amazon package: Is this yours?
Me: Well, does it have my name on it?
G4S guard looks at package: No, it has someone else’s name.
Me:
Wow @G4S you’ve spared no expense in training I see.
@SaffronKim Her face makes me think of the Roald Dahl quote, “if you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams you and will always look lovely.”
: When I speak of trauma I’m referring to PTSD. Normal wounding, distress is now referred to as trauma- it’s not nice or pleasant, but it is not trauma.
@RukhsanaSukhan I think this that’s what bothers me, politicising the term. And clinicians operate from the political understanding.
I notice two extremes: ignoring it unhelpfully, and also over focussing unhelpfully.
@RukhsanaSukhan When I speak of trauma I’m referring to PTSD. Normal wounding, distress is now referred to as trauma- it’s not nice or pleasant, but it is not trauma.
It’s people who’ve not experienced real pain or struggle that so casually inflict it on other people.
People intimately familiar with pain have more respect for it.
Gifts pain has given me:
•Self awareness
•Empathy
•Humility
•Something resembling wisdom
•An open mind
•The desire to live & let live
•Strength & resilience
•Faith in myself to prevail
If you watch the footage of what’s happening in Cuba, and your main concern is with protecting your ideology- something has gone terribly wrong for you.
It’s very easy to be a ‘communist’ when you live in the west, your human rights are enshrined in the law & you’ve never had to worry about your basic needs.
Very easy, and incredibly naive.
What is happening in Cuba should be sobering to all those pushing communism in the west.
Every instance of communism in practice has been murderous & genocidal.
Comparison is not just the thief of joy, it’s also the thief of originality.
If you’re always trying to emulate other people’s successes- you aren’t just a poor imitation of them- you’re also depriving yourself of the opportunity to learn who *you* might become.
@RukhsanaSukhan I was turned off Gabor Mate when I heard his ‘emotional addiction’ ideas- but it wasn’t from the original source so I’m open to learning more.
Peter Levine is fantastic. Shame idiots dumb down his work.
@CoreySaylor1 @Ilovecanada13 Read up on managing ADHD, even if you can’t access meds or an assessment right now there are still things that could help make life more manageable.
If you never ‘realised’ you ‘had trauma’ till you saw a very general list on Instagram that could apply to anybody: it’s probably not trauma.
Trauma is a very specific thing, if you were traumatised you’d know it.
: Most likely you’re dealing with emotional wounding, some shitty childhood stuff and/or the burden of being which is very heavy.
Life is hard. For everyone. That doesn’t mean you ‘have trauma’.
If you never ‘realised’ you ‘had trauma’ till you saw a very general list on Instagram that could apply to anybody: it’s probably not trauma.
Trauma is a very specific thing, if you were traumatised you’d know it.
Most therapy & wellness content is incredible classist.
This content is aimed at people who have the luxury of self-care, healing journeys, yoga & spending vast amounts of time ruminating on themselves.
It’s not aimed at people struggling to meet their basic needs.
“We are going to fight racism by being racist, fight for LGBTQ rights by regressing the gay movement & fight for equality by forcing equality of outcome.”
Excellent. I’m sure you’ll also put out a house fire with gasoline.
I had a similar experience of harassment from a @G4S guard on the bus that brought me to the quarantine hotel- as described by @mcdermottsarah @SueM1tchell in this article.
We are trapped & at the mercy of these guards who are abusing their power.
https://www.bbc.com/news/stories-57609164
Breakfast at #quarantinehoteluk & the test is the free one the NHS gives you. The hotel costs £60 per night.
So where is the £2K per person going? I’m guessing to pay @G4S security guards who are assaulting female guests.
Great job @10DowningStreet @FCDOGovUK https://twitter.com/seerutkchawla/status/1415249994601406466/photo/1
The use of science & mathematics isn’t ‘colonisation’.
The lack of mainstream acceptance of ‘other ways of knowing’ isn’t ‘white supremacy’.
If the other ways of knowing were as consistently reliable & measurable as science they’d be just as accepted.
The use of science & mathematics isn’t ‘colonisation’.
The lack of mainstream acceptance of ‘other ways of knowing’ isn’t ‘white supremacy’.
If the other ways of knowing were as consistently reliable & measurable as science they’d be just as accepted.
@jim_lingk @TravelCTM_UK I got this ‘meal’ yesterday lol. Haven’t eaten today- waiting to see what is presented for dinner 😂 https://twitter.com/seerutkchawla/status/1414999960240762882/photo/1
Update: Been moved to a clean & air conditioned room 🎉- the whole corridor was clean and air conditioned…
…which means they’re putting quarantiners in bad conditions purposely 😐
#managedquarantineuk
I asked if they have food other than sandwiches & was told I can ‘order from uber eats’.
After paying almost £2K already. @TravelCTM_UK #managedquarantineuk
This is what @TravelCTM_UK and the UK government provide for mandatory £2K quarantine. #managedquaratineuk https://twitter.com/seerutkchawla/status/1414954862622781451/photo/1
@drrollergator @AmandaLeftCoast Yeah. The only way i could come back from india was to pay £2K and go to mandatory quarantine. I wouldn’t have gone if not for my Mum passing.
To take SO much money and put us in these conditions…
The UK charging it’s own citizens £2K to re-enter the country is bad enough.
To then put us in financial hardship AND squalid mandatory quarantine conditions is absolutely disgusting. Unforgivable.
I honestly thought if the UK government put me in a state managed quarantine hotel it would be okay.
I’m genuinely shocked. I want to cry at the thought of being locked in this hot, dirty, room for 10 days. And I’m £2K poorer. Shame on you. @TravelCTM_UK
: Sorry, I’m really grieving & emotional- and being absolutely exhausted and confronted with this was… shit.
Will write a more organised thread tomorrow.
Thanks for support ❤️
People returning to the UK from 'red zone' countries are being charged £1800 to live in squalid hotels in Heathrow for their quarantine. Just been sent some horrific pictures by a friend @FCDOGovUK why are we being treated so badly? #Covid_Inequalities https://t.co/PDXyyllptz
I honestly thought if the UK government put me in a state managed quarantine hotel it would be okay.
I’m genuinely shocked. I want to cry at the thought of being locked in this hot, dirty, room for 10 days. And I’m £2K poorer. Shame on you. @TravelCTM_UK
Signs you’re shit at arguing:
•ad hominem attacks
•attempting to cause pain
•deflecting from direct questions
•not saying ‘I don’t know’ when you don’t
•making it about your ego, not the issue
•not having the intellectual humility to concede when the other person is right
Words that have lost all meaning due to hyperbolic/incorrect over use:
•harmful
•problematic
•racist
•grift
•phobic
•accountability
•tender
•narcissist
•normalise
Words that have lost all meaning due to hyperbolic/incorrect over use:
•harmful
•problematic
•racist
•grift
•phobic
•accountability
•tender
•narcissist
•normalise
If someone treats you in a way that’s disturbing, demeaning, sadistic, cruel, or contemptuous- they are giving you information about who they are & what they think of you.
Believe them.
If you’re regularly stalking & harassing people on the internet, it’s a very obvious indicator you have serious offline issues that you are enacting online.
: Instead of finding online targets to:
•avoid yourself
•enact your internal distress
•self-soothe by lashing out at someone else
•stuff your shame by shaming other people
Focus on yourself.
If you’re regularly stalking & harassing people on the internet, it’s a very obvious indicator you have serious offline issues that you are enacting online.
The critical race theory debate is a motte & bailey tactic.
They say it’s ‘just to teach history’ (which is fine), but the leaked course materials are essentially racism (unacceptable).
A natural consequence of taking a position is having opposition.
And some people do it like adults, and others behave like emotional terrorists- and it’s socially encouraged.
: For those who can’t think critically: No, I don’t mean toddlers & small children. Obviously protect them.
And no I don’t mean third degree burns, engage brain.
“You’ve changed & your views have changed”
Yes. I work hard at being better than I was yesterday & I change my mind when presented with better evidence.
Why haven’t you changed?
@victorious_chi I agree, we can’t work with everyone & if we fit the edges of our competency/capacity then referring out is the best thing we can do for them. 😊❤️
If a client brings politics, religion, new age ideas, etc to the work, that’s fine.
I don’t bring them to the room however, because it’s not about me- it’s always about the client.
How you ‘learn’ woke doctrine:
1. Pretend unproven academic assertions are gospel truth.
2. Presuppose an absurd idea.
3. Ignore reality & gaslight yourself.
4. Make sure you’ve twisted your mind into a pretzel.
Congratulations, you ‘learned’ something new!
4/ I do not believe ‘personal is political’ however many times North American university students chant it in unison.
It’s a patently idiotic idea, and I’m uninterested in suspending logic to make it make ‘sense’.
3/ Client work is not an opportunity to further your political agenda or indoctrinate clients.
The fact that this is has to be made explicit is unreal.
: 4/ I do not believe ‘personal is political’ however many times North American university students chant it in unison.
It’s a patently idiotic idea, and I’m uninterested in suspending logic to make it make ‘sense’.
2/ I do not subscribe to the logically inconsistent, illiberal, authoritarian ideology that demands I bring their absurd worldview into my therapeutic work.
Why this doesn’t raise alarm bells is baffling.
: 3/ Client work is not an opportunity to further your political agenda or indoctrinate clients.
The fact that this is has to be made explicit is unreal.
: 2/ I do not subscribe to the logically inconsistent, illiberal, authoritarian ideology that demands I bring their absurd worldview into my therapeutic work.
Why this doesn’t raise alarm bells is baffling.
What Susie says of Sally says more about Susie than of Sally.
Unless of course Susie is telling her woke friends, in which case they’ll call Sally’s employer and get Sally fired.
We can eradicate standardized testing but we can't eradicate the underlying cognitive variation that they reveal. Thinking otherwise is like believing that we can get rid of mountains by eliminating topographical maps.
@ChukarBlog I mean you could even split the difference and say they died because of covid interacting with their underlying condition- either way if not for covid that death wouldn’t have happened. So your friend is a bit illogical.
@ConceptualJames I think that’s the only way it can work, it can’t be taught by adherents & adherents only care about ideology not the best interests of children.
@a_centrism It is very difficult, and it means confronting our limitations & the fact that we can’t insulate ourselves from tragedy. Stoicism helped me :)
Life gets a hell of a lot more chill when you:
•Accept you can’t control everything.
•Practice ‘strong opinions loosely held’.
•Try to do the right thing so you can live with yourself.
•Accept other people’s humanness.
•Develop some damn gratitude.
I had covid last year, and then long covid (exacerbated by autoimmunity). Lost two distant relatives over Christmas. And lost my Mum last month 💔
No idea why people think it’s a hoax- but it’s actually possible to disagree & still be friends.
@EPoe187 I take most covid related theories with a grain of salt- but I respect him. I don’t think he’d say anything publicly without a great deal of thought- also why can’t we disagree with people without trying discredit them?
For what it’s worth: I think Bret Weinstein is an amazing human being. I admire how honourable he is, his intellectual humility, and how well he treats even his detractors.
I don’t understand why his reputation is being tarnished, but I suspect it’s because he’s onto something.
@mmeJen @MattyBoySwag143 Yeah definitely not Bret’s fans, but the mob made its way to Instagram and wrote a bunch of horrible stuff under a picture of her kid. Apparently also doxxed her and contacted people IRL.
@EPoe187 @MichaelDavSmith @BenjaminABoyce Yes, it’s the exhibitionism, and that seems to inform a salacious delight in coming across something that can be used to signal that righteousness. So how does that make us any better than the woke?
@EPoe187 @MichaelDavSmith @BenjaminABoyce Yes, it’s the exhibitionism, and that seems to inform a salacious delight in coming across something that can be used to signal that righteousness. So how does that make us any better than the woke?
@MichaelDavSmith @EPoe187 @BenjaminABoyce I know, and it’s the same thing almost verbatim that everyone else has said. If someone has been told by 20K people, think it might be okay to scroll past that one.
@seerutkchawla My SM policy has always been *not* to join a mobbing. I imagine a pack of slavering hyena types all desperate to join in & competing to say the most cutting thing and I don't want to be that.
@mmeJen I think it’s to do with how people who’ve been traumatised are disconnected from their body (lacking interception), as opposed to ‘in their body’. Embodied vs disembodied.
My dog died today. My handsome, silly, ridiculously loving & perpetually happy boy has gone. He was almost 13 & I’ve had him since he took his first breath. I feel broken & lost. But so glad to have had him in my life. Goodnight, sweet Wilfred. We’ll be forever in your gang. 💔 https://t.co/kXzIyjH0jz
Aghast that this is how therapists are behaving. This is not what therapy should be, it is not the therapists place to try to make you ‘identify’ as something. Ever. https://twitter.com/HabituallyFemme/status/1411156627814764544
@HabituallyFemme As a therapist, I’m profoundly ashamed that this has been your experience. You should never have to consider what is safe to share with your therapist for fear of them trying to convert you.
@CosmiqueAliene Not just people with mental illness, all of us. We can all fall into the trap of emotional reasoning- and don’t do yourself down okay ♥️
•Let’s normalise this generic thing that was normalised 50 years ago.
•Friendly reminder of something blindingly obvious.
•Repeat after me as if we are all in a cult.
•I don’t know who needs to hear this but this is cultural engineering.
If you don’t want to do anything useful but still want to feel the warm glow of virtue, just text:
“I’m holding space for you, your feelings are valid.”
In our over ‘therapised’ culture people can rattle off the DSM criteria for narcissism, but can’t identify what they are feeling.
So much disembodied jargon, so little embodiment.
Your feelings are ‘true’ in that they exist, but they are neither objective reality nor necessarily giving you accurate information about objective reality.
If you can’t cope with an opinion, the wrong way to approach it would to be to censor that opinion.
The right way to approach it is to develop resilience, tolerance and/or learn to set some boundaries.
I’ve taken liberal & heterodox out of my bio because honestly they shouldn’t matter.
I shouldn’t have to signal my fealty to anything.
The arguments I make should stand (or not) on their own merit.